Wednesday, January 21, 2015

Be the Change: a Testimony from Shelby Havard

(Reprinted with permission from Shelby)
My name is Shelby Havard,  and I was a friend of Lizzie's in middle and high school. I just wanted you to know how much your daughter impacted my life. The semester before her death, I was diagnosed with depression and spent a lot of my time drinking and smoking. I was throwing my life away, and God really used Lizzie to open my eyes. Lizzie exuded joy. She made an effort to live life to the fullest, and she trusted God through it all. Soon after Lizzie died, I decided to turn my life around and I applied for a 9 month mission trip to Guatemala, Thailand, and Zambia. I'm currently in Thailand right now, and I am so thankful for how far God has brought me since this time last year. I just wanted you to know how much of an impact your daughter made on the people around her. She inspired me to make the most of my life and to follow God, and now I am able to love and serve people all because she allowed God to use her. Your daughter was an incredible young woman and she was very, very loved.
Attached is a picture of me hugging a monkey in Thailand on my mission trip! She inspired me to come here, and it's on her bucket list, so this one is for her.

Wednesday, January 14, 2015

January 15

“All sorrows can be borne if you put them in a story or tell a story about them,” said the writer Isak Dinesen. When loss is a story, there is no right or wrong way to grieve. There is no pressure to move on. There is no shame in intensity or duration. Sadness, regret, confusion, yearning and all the experiences of grief become part of the narrative of love for the one who died.
- from Getting Grief Right by Patrick O'Malley

So many thoughts and feelings are running rampant through my mind. How do I get them all out in a way that truly conveys the mark this day has made on my life? The "if onlys" trample through my mind like petulant children: demanding that I pay attention to them: stomping their little feet and tugging on the hems of my clothes: Demanding that I stop whatever daily function in which I am engaged and focus totally on them.  A feeling of failure has haunted me for a year - so much so that some days I want to talk about my failure in the hopes of excising them and other days I just want to crawl into a deep, dark space and hide my shame.
I failed Elizabeth.
The days between Christmas 2013 and Jan. 15 a year ago fluctuate between clear, concise memories and blurred lines.  I begin to write, to tell her story and later think "oh, I forgot about....." I am desperate to record every single event, emotion, and thought. I feel as if I am grasping blindly about for some sort of stronghold or rope to cling to. Life did continue after Lizzie died. We all went back to work or school. We celebrated holidays and birthdays. We gathered with friends and family. Through it all, for me, there has been a glaring absence in every corner of my life. I know that my demeanor and personality are less... energized? infectious? happy? I feel it in my bones. I see it on my face.
Lizzie came home from The Joseph House at Christmas. I returned to work after the first of the year, and Lizzie stayed with my parents. You see, (and this is just an example of Lizzie's spirit) Lizzie decided she wanted me to have new flooring. She and my parents snuck around for months researching colors, styles, and materials. The day I returned to school (failure #1) the flooring was installed. All the living room furniture was stacked in the breakfast area. It was literally an obstacle course. Lizzie wasn't quite ready to return to Joseph House so she stayed with my parents. She liked it there. My sister works for my father, and the office is at my parents' house. People were always coming and going. And pretty much Lizzie got what Lizzie wanted. I guess we fell into a routine of sorts. It was the Saturday before the 15th.  My father's birthday is on the 11th, so  the plan was the family was going out to eat to celebrate. I go to my parents' home to hang out with my child. Lizzie wasn't feeling very well so she headed off to bed. So there I am. Sitting with my mom. Watching TV. My mother at one point says, "Well, I guess I need to tell you that Lizzie has planned a surprise party for you at Applebee's."  Dinner with my family was a ruse. Well, partly. The plan was that the family would go to Applebee's, but once there Lizzie and Alex would stay with the party and me. My friends were waiting for me at the restaurant. However, Lizzie was not well enough to go. What do I do? Part of me said "Stay with your daughter". Part of me said "Go. Lizzie will be upset if you don't." So I went (failure #2).  Probably around 10 or so, Mom calls me and says Lizzie wanted me. So I left and went back to my parents for a little while. I should have stayed all night. (failure #3) The next day Ricky cooked one of Lizzie's favorite meals to take to my parents. It took a little longer than expected. My dad called saying Lizzie wanted to talk to me. I don't know why, but she couldn't hear me. I kept telling her that as soon as the meal was ready, we'd be right over. I can still hear her say "Granddaddy, I can't hear her." The last thing I remember saying to my child was "Lizzie, let me talk to Granddaddy." (failure #4). I should have told her that I loved her.  I should have immediately hung up the phone and raced over there. (failure #5). We finally get there and she's asleep. We eat. I had been coughing for a couple of months. Never had time to go to the doctor (another failure) and not only was the cough causing pain, but simply breathing was excruciating. Ricky took me go to the ER. I had pleurisy brought on by bronchitis and on its way to pneumonia. Each cough felt like someone was stabbing me in my lung. The following day, Monday, I had taken off from school to take care of Lizzie. I get there to find out that the hospice nurse had been called during the night. A small bag of fluids was attached to Lizzie. To me fluids were the liquids of life. Several times before those bags of fluids would restore Lizzie to a point where she could participate. I call Amber at Hospice in the Pines. At first I was angry. Why was the bag so small? I remember Amber saying, "Dianne, what's going on? What is Lizzie doing?" I just start bawling on the phone saying "She's not doing anything!" Amber immediately comes. She takes three steps into the room, calls in-patient and tells them to make room. Lizzie is coming.

Amber knew.

I'm thinking that everything is going to be ok now. Each time Lizzie has been admitted to in-patient hospice she's bounced back. Those people there are miracle workers. Lizzie will be admitted and in a couple of days she'll be running the hallways again. I can see it now. I was delusional. I can't explain it, but I was operating with the idea that my child was not truly dying. Somehow, some way Lizzie would continue to stay with me.
The ambulance comes. We all head over to in-patient. At some point I run home to grab a bag for the stay - pull my shoulder muscle in the process. (Remember, my brain is operating on the belief that Lizzie will pull through.)So now I yelp when I cough and groan when I move my right shoulder.
Then reality hits. How many times had we been at this point? This point where doctors were telling us that this was it? This point where we were told that Lizzie was right there at death's doorstep? And each of those times Lizzie rallied to prove them wrong. But this was not like the other times. Lizzie was settled into what they jokingly called "Lizzie's room." (I'm tellin' ya - Lizzie was Queen Bee there). I'm outside of Lizzie's room, and Amber tells me that Lizzie will not pull out of this. That this time is it. I call my daughter Alex and tell her to come home.  Amber calls their dad. I couldn't do it. I thought he might have questions that I wouldn't know the answer to. I also thought he might grasp the reality of what was happening if Amber called instead of me.  People came by - can't remember who all. It seemed like a steady stream. Everything is now a blur. Looking back and it seems as if it happened so fast instead of the approximately 40 hours. I wouldn't leave Lizzie's side except to go to the restroom. Visitors would tell me to walk outside with them for just a minute or two. No,  I wasn't going to leave her.  At one point I climb into the bed and cradle her in my arms. My mom stayed with us the entire time. Each of us on either side of the bed. Each of us holding her hand. Once I was bouncing Lizzie's hand in mine when I felt a little twitch from her hand. My heart jumped and my eyes flew to her face. Was she responding? Did I annoy her enough that she was going to tell me to stop?
Tuesday came and went. People came and went. Finally it was just Lizzie, Mom, and myself. I'm sure we dozed off and on throughout the night. But at some point we both scoot our chairs closer to the bed and each reach for Lizzie's hand. It's absolutely quiet in the room. The only sound is that of Lizzie breathing.  Without knowing the other was doing the same thing, we would count the seconds between Lizzie's exhales and the following inhale. We can tell the breaths are coming farther and farther apart. Lizzie exhales. We begin counting until the inhale. Seconds tick by. Exhale, inhale. Exhale, inhale. Exhale...... we look at each other. I ask my mom if she heard a breath. Mom shakes her head and pushes the call button. The nurse comes in and listens - faint heartbeat - then no more.

2:47 AM

"Bring her back! I want her back!"
I thought I was prepared. Two and a half years of watching my child waste away. Hurting for her. Feeling helpless. Supporting her decisions but wanting that miracle to appear. I thought I was ready. I wasn't. In that moment I felt .....
despair        anguish     pain     gut-wrenching yearning     heartache  
the feeling that someone just ripped my insides totally out and there was nothing left but a shell
the feeling that my heart stopped beating
the feeling that my lungs are no longer filled with air 

Today is my birthday. People have asked how I am going to celebrate it. I don't want to. Each year I turn older will mark one more year that I no longer have Elizabeth. "Dianne, you and Lizzie now share a birthday: yours on Earth and hers in Heaven." Yes, we do. I understand that. Lizzie was never afraid of dying. Lizzie told me once that she knew when she was first diagnosed that she would not survive the cancer. She had asked God for a testimony and this was it. The knowledge that she would be going to Heaven gave her the strength she needed to face and deal with the disease. The knowledge that she would one day be with God gave her the grace to live her remaining life with excitement and eagerness. It gave her a zest to face every day with wonder.  My faith is not as strong. There are nights I look up at the sky and wonder at God's creation. Others I look up and wonder if God is there. I live with the regret that my last words to Lizzie were not I love you. Did she know? Did she know that she was not alone? Could she feel her hands being held by her mom and grandmother? Did she know I was beside her at the funeral home until it was time for her to go?
There was a lady at the Joseph House that Lizzie loved to visit. I will call her Ms. G. Outside of Ms. G's window are several hummingbird feeders. In the spring and summer there would be numerous hummingbirds hanging around outside of the window - flitting, eating, sitting. The ladies at The Joseph House told me that on the day Lizzie died, one little hummingbird sat for awhile on the shepherd's crook right outside of Ms. G's January. They are convinced that the bird was Lizzie coming to check in on Ms. G: coming to let Ms. G know that she was ok.
My daughter Chrissii told me about how my grandson Sawyer would giggle in his sleep when he was only a couple of months old. Someone told her that when babies do that it means that an angel is playing with him. We like to think that Lizzie is keeping an eye on him.
Me?  I beg that one night Lizzie visits with me in my dreams. I want to say those three words that I so regret not saying to her as I hung up the phone.
I love you.


Tuesday, December 23, 2014

This Christmas Season

I wasn't going to put up a tree this year. My heart wasn't in it. I wasn't going to put out lights. My heart wasn't in it.  The "Christmas Spirit" seemed to be residing somewhere else. I used to "go all out" at Christmas. Lights outside and in. Christmas decorations in every corner. I even tried the Elf on the Shelf shenanigans when the girls were both in high school. "Really, Mom?" was the response.  Travis and I have been divorced for several years, and in that time the girls have been away at Christmas many times. I  thought...... hoped that my mind would make me believe that this year was like many in the past. But my heart knows different. I was walking around outside one day thinking of my lack of spirit - thinking of Lizzie and how I miss her - feeling generally pitiful. Then I began thinking of another child born, on Christmas, who died. I began thinking that Christmas is not a time to feel sad or depressed for those we have lost, but happy for the One we have found. Christmas is a time to remember the One who lived his life and died for all of us to be able to live our lives and one day live again with Him. So, I bought a new fake tree (allergies), new decorations, and put up a Christmas tree. I  decorated the outside with lights.
Did I go "all out" as in the past? No. Part of the reason is that I just don't want to have to put it all away when the time comes. (residual bah humbug?).......However, the totes are still sitting in my living room It may happen between now and tomorrow. Who knows?
I miss Lizzie so very much. Christmas celebrations will be different from now on, but the reason for the celebration is the same as it has been for thousands of years. Yes, we will mourn the loss of our loved ones. But we must remember  the One who was born on Christmas. The One who died so that we may one day live in Heaven.

I think I need more lights!

Thursday, November 27, 2014

Part 5

I feel like I am doubling back on myself. I begin telling Lizzie's story and then realize I have already written what I am about to write. I think that's one of my biggest fears: as time passes, I begin to get things mixed up or I begin to forget. I'm terrified of forgetting. I don't want to forget. I am also afraid that others will forget. I want Lizzie to be remembered for the inspiration that she was. ( I was just told that these posts are really long. I apologize. There is just so much to tell!)
There we were at Texas Children's in Houston. Poor Lizzie. She was so drugged that she kept forgetting her birthday. We had a little party for her and she opened her gifts. Then a few days later she would tell someone "it's about to be my birthday." We would have to remind her that her birthday had already passed. She would become sad and ask what she got. We would go through all the gifts and tell her who they were from. Then a day or so would pass and we would repeat the process. Dr. Thompson arranged with UT for Lizzie to receive a certificate of completion. The nurses and doctors decorated her room and had a ceremony. (Dr. Thompson is a Longhorn fan.) Guests were invited and speeches made. Everyone thought that this was the end. Remedies for her pain were discussed and dismissed. You see, there is as thin membrane that surrounds the lungs. That's were the fluid was building up. The lining was "sticking" to her lung and that was what was causing pain. A surgery was suggested in which they go in and "scrape" the lining. However, it was discovered that is wasn't fluid, it was tumors. Surgery was not an option. Her doctors told us this was it. Her body was shutting down. Family and friends were called in. Kyle, her best friend, had to contact her other friends. I can't imagine what that was like for a young man. Too be so young and tasked with such a job. The decision was made to bring Lizzie home on hospice. Dr. Thompson told us on a later visit that when we left he believed that it was the last time he would see Lizzie.  She arrived here and we were introduced to Amber and Kevin from Hospice in the Pines - two of the most caring and uplifting people I have ever had the pleasure to meet. I couldn't have asked for better hospice nurses. Coston Elementary, my school, arranged and carried out a spaghetti supper along with a raffle. T-shirts were sold. The annual Panther Bowl was turned into Lizzie Bowl. The Lufkin Panther band spelled out "Lizzie" on the field. The entire community gathered around Lizzie in support. Little by little Lizzie improved. One thing I noticed was that when Lizzie had enough of something, she worked to make it better. She had enough of being tethered to the chest pump. She had enough of the blood clot. She was done being stuck in her bedroom. She wanted out. I remember one day sitting with her in her room. She turned to me with tears in her eyes and said she didn't want to live like this. That day I got  my husband to build two ramps for our house so we could get Lizzie from her bedroom to the living room. It was a monumental task. We had to not only transport Lizzie in a wheelchair, but had to pull along the IV stand and the chest pump.  Friends would come over constantly to watch TV or play the guitar and sing. We basically enacted an "open door" policy. We told her friends to just come on in - don't bother knocking. The Lizzie train worked for a little while until she had enough. Lizzie did not like being dependent on others. When it became evident that the chest pump had done it's job, it was turned off and disconnected. The next thing I know is she is walking!  By the end of the month, Lizzie was attending her sister Alex's graduation! She was off - not running - but on her way. She was removed from hospice care so that the blood clot could be treated. Boy oh boy she hated the treatment for the blood clot! The next step was to remove the pic line and the tube that connected the chest pump.  However, over the course of the summer, she began to deteriorate.  At the end of the summer, Lizzie's dad came to pick her up to spend some time with him. That definitely was hard for me. But, I thought spending time on the coast would be good for her. I imagined her sitting on the deck or beach just soaking up some vitamin D. But this was not to be. The ammonia level was building up in her body. She was admitted into the hospital in Corpus Christie. The ammonia levels affected her life processes. She had to be fed through a tube in her nose. She didn't recognize people. She couldn't feed herself. She couldn't drink through a straw. The medication that was given to lower the ammonia level gave her serious problems. (I won't go into it. Lizzie would be embarrassed.) But, it was working. One day, she reached up, grabbed the tube, and began pulling it out. I knew she would be getting better. She had enough. Little by little she began to first say one or two words, then sentences. Again, the decision was for Lizzie to return home on hospice. The problem was how to transport her. Insurance would not provide an ambulance and  I knew she would not make that long drive in a car. Her dad happens to be a life-flight pilot. The company he works for agreed to transport her to Lufkin. She came home via helicopter and on hospice. I waited on the roof and watched the helicopter land. I walked over and grabbed her hand. Lizzie turned her head and said "Mommy!" I asked her how the trip was. She said there was a lot of scenery. That was our first introduction to the wonderful people at in-patient hospice. It's funny to think back now how she didn't want to stay in the hospital. We assured her it was just for a short time to get her stable. It's funny because that became her favorite place to be! I can remember Amber and Kevin, her hospice nurses from before, being shocked at how her health had declined.  When she came home, my mom and my aunt took turns caring for Lizzie during the day since I had to work.  At some point, Lizzie had enough. She improved again. But, when you look back at pictures, you can see the effect the disease had on her body. Cancer is a calorie sucking disease. Lizzie ate and ate, but the weight fell off. She was unhappy. She hated being cared for. She hated depending on others. She absolutely hated the medicine she had to take to keep the ammonia from building again. She made the decision to stop taking it. She told me that it did no good to be able to get around if she couldn't leave the vicinity of a bathroom. She was frustrated. She then entered into "Respite Care" at in-patient hospice. Geesh! You would have thought she was the Queen of England! She was the little queen bee of hospice. She loved the nurses there and the nurses loved her. They would sit and discuss movies or music. They would take her on a spin around the hospital.  Basically, whatever Lizzie wanted she received. However, respite is short term. She returned home and was unhappy again.  That's when we were introduced to The Joseph House. The Joseph House is a end-o-life care facility in which the residents have their own little apartment with around the clock care. It's a beautiful facility. Lizzie moved in and made friends again. I think this was around November. We fell into a routine. I would work during the day and go stay with Lizzie at night. She had a constant list of visitors especially Kelly Adams-Williams and there became Queen of England again. She would visit the other tenants, sitting beside them and talking about whatever came to mind. The caregivers set up a cot in the office for when Lizzie went to visit and would fall asleep. An arm chair was requested so that she had a comfortable place to sit on those visits. Her friends Kaitlyn and Walker McWilliams lived just down the street from The Joseph House. Lizzie had no problem calling them and asking in a round-about way if Kaitlyn was making her favorite dish. It didn't matter what was on the menu that night. It was now Lizzie's favorite dish and taxi service to their house for dinner. There's a story about sweet potatoes and The Joseph House that I won't tell here....and naked cherub angels.
 There were a couple more visits to in-patient care - each time improvements made which is ironic considering the purpose of in-patient care. On one of those visits - exactly one year ago today (11/26) she was at in-patient. They released her and we went immediately to the other hospital to see her nephew born.  We rolled into the delivery room just minutes before Sawyer was born. I remember the huge smile on her face as she remarked "This is amazing!" No, we weren't in the delivery room exactly when Sawyer was born. Lizzie decided that she didn't want to stay for that. On another visit, Amber came and got her, rolled her across the street, and we walked in the Memory Walk. She literally lit up and came alive at in-patient hospice.
 But her health was continually failing and so were her spirits. Christmas came and she spent it sleeping. Again so disappointed because she missed the opening of presents. The ammonia was building and affecting her body. She had difficulty seeing and  walking. Texting and using the computer were almost impossible. Her hands shook so badly.  I think that was really hard on her - seeing life continue but not really being a part of it. I compare it to being in no man's land. She was with us but not really. Her friends were going on with their lives - lives that she had been so much a part of but not any more. They were going and doing and she couldn't. They had conversations that Lizzie no longer could participate in. She was an outsider to a life that had once been so important to her.

Wednesday, August 27, 2014


I'm not a big fan of spiders. I know they are beneficial. I can examine a spider web and wonder at the intricacies of the design. When I taught science, we didn't kill the spiders. We recued them to fulfill their purpose.  But I just don't like them. I can deal with them, though, when I am prepared. If I see one across the room or am called to take care of one, I can deal. It's the unexpected ones that give me the chills: the ones that drop unexpectedly from above or suddenly appear crawling on your shoulder. Because I recognize this fear, I avoid spelunking in dark caves, exploring dilapidated houses, or walking with someone who likes to play practical jokes.   Grief is like that. I received a questionnaire the other day from Hospice in the Pines. It basically asked a series of questions to evaluate how I am doing. Some examples:
1. difficulty sleeping = only when there's a symphony of snoring
2. little appetite = just the opposite. I can always eat.
3. have not been able to return to work = nope. I find comfort in my job.
4. avoid going places or doing activities I used to go with Lizzie = never. I love remembering.
But then there's
5. lacking in energy = yes
6. attending to Lizzie's personal belongings = haven't done it yet.
7. possibly depressed: don't seem myself anymore = yes
8. allowing myself to really let go and cry = here's where the spiders come in
I can talk about Lizzie all day long. I have no problem with providing anecdotes of life with Lizzie. I am prepared for those. I have control over the situation. It's those times when I'm not prepared that get me and I have a hard time dealing. We were asked to remember the first day we took our own child to kindergarten during an inservice for school. I had no idea we were going to be asked to recall. All of the sudden, an image of Lizzie popped into my head. Lizzie went to kindergarten at the same school at which I taught. She would run errands for her teacher and would always take the long way back to class so she could stroll by my room. I can still see her looking into my room as she passed - walking very slowly - with this cute little smile on her face. I would stop my lesson and run to the door to give her a quick hug and tell her that I loved her. Grief was a spider that fell from above. I felt the tears well. I felt the pain in my chest. And when my dear friend looked at me with sympathy in her eyes, I lost it.  I've learned to avoid certain situations. Even though I read The Fault in Our Stars (at Lizzie's insistence), I will not go see the movie. I refuse to watch The Red Band Society that is about to show on TV or the show where the girl finds our she has leukemia. Certain commercials on TV or the radio get hastily changed. So how am I doing? Not sure. I miss Lizzie so very much. Words cannot adequately express the depth of my missing her. It's in my bones. It's in every breath I take. It's in my core. I know letting grief out in a good cry can be beneficial. As long as I avoid those dark caves and scary houses, I have control over my grief. As long as grief doesn't drop from above like a handfuls of daddy longlegs, I'm ok..... I guess. I don't know. Likening grief to 8-legged creatures is kind of weird.....

Tuesday, August 26, 2014

Testimonies Part 4

So, the next year was a whirlwind. Lizzie was off at college enjoying her life. In the fall, we had family pictures taken. I can still see Alex chasing Lizzie through the trees at St. Cyprian's. I'm not sure what Lizzie did to Alex, but she was sprinting around laughing while Alex chased her.  In December, my mother arranged a trip for Lizzie, Alex, Stephanie (sister), me, and herself to New York City. It was a wonderful trip. Our hotel was fabulous and only a few blocks from Time Square. Needless to say we walked around in a state of awe. Imagine 5 small-town East Texas women loose in the big city constantly looking up. And it snowed! We visited Rockefeller Center and saw the famed Christmas tree and all the ice skaters. Someone was filming at the time, but we couldn't tell who. We made it to the top of  The Empire State Building, roamed  The Metropolitan Museum of Art and the Museum of Modern Art. I didn't care that much for modern art, but the MET was awe-inspiring. We walked central park - rode a horse-drawn carriage through the park, and strolled down 5th Avenue. We even got to see Wicked on Broadway! The store fronts were decorated for Christmas and were amazing. I can remember being stuck in the middle of my mom and Stephanie and the two girls. I was trying to stay with Mom and my sister, but also trying to keep an eye on two teenagers blasting their way through crowded streets. That February was a trip of a lifetime to Rome, Italy through the Make A Wish foundation, Alpha Chi Omega sorority at SFA, and an anonymous benefactor from Huntington. We had been working on this trip for an entire year. It came to a point where Lizzie's oncologist contacted Make A Wish and said that if she was going to be able to go, it needed to happen soon. At that time, Lizzie was still full of energy and I'm not sure if the gravity of her condition registered. All five of us were able to go: Ricky, myself, Lizzie, Alex, and Chrissii. The flight over was rather uneventful.....except the in-flight movie was TAKEN! Yikes! It was over night, so we slept. We weren't so lucky on the way back. Our hotel was very nice - not far from the Coliseum. The three girls stayed in one room. We could hear them at night laughing and giggling and cutting up. Our first night there we ate at......Hard Rock Rome. BUT, while roaming around after dinner, we stumbled upon The Trevi Fountain. This quaint shopping area became our stomping grounds. Make A Wish did an excellent job of planning  our stay. We were able to see The Coliseum, The Vatican, roam the city, shop, and take a train ride to Florence to see Michelangelo's David. (He's huge!) We went on a walking tour which was very interesting. Our guide showed us where you can actually see where Rome is built upon Rome! She told us that The Coliseum is not in ruins due to age, but parts were actually taken to build new parts of Rome. When building the Vatican, bronze was taken from other structures such as The Pantheon to be used. We saw the most magnificent fountains and statues - all with truly interesting back stories. We were there at the time when the new pope was being decided upon. It was interesting to look each day to see if the color of smoke changed. We also learned that when Romans are taught to drive, they are taught to "fill the empty spaces." This idea created many harrowing taxi rides for us! The girls had a blast, and everyone there was so friendly! At first, Ricky and I were like secret service men standing outside of stores so that the girls could shop. After a day or so, we felt comfortable enough to give the girls some space. Thinking back I'm literally at a loss for words. In February Lizzie was buzzing around Rome. Just a couple of short months later she was tired, sick, and out of breath. As I've said before, Alex and I visited Lizzie for Easter. She was feeling drained. In May, Ricky and I visit to help move most of her things back to Lufkin. She had no energy. A week later, she was in the hospital. It all came crashing down so quickly. She never really recovered from the chest pump.

Saturday, July 19, 2014

1 More

Mission trip to Africa or South America (maybe even both!!)
Skydive Judy Winger
Bungee Jump
See an alligator in the wild  Alex and Mom - Spring Break 2014 and Susan Berquist
Tickle a penguin
Go to a Katy Perry concert
Meet Ryan Gosling
Meet Joseph Gordon- Levitt
Go to Europe
Visit New York during Christmas time
 Go scuba diving Kelly Adams-Williams and Scott Williams
Adopt (more like sponsor) an orphan    Me (Dianne)
Get a tattoo
Go on a helicopter ride over Austin at night
Cheesy I know, but get my first kiss
Ride in a hot air balloon
Run a 5k (for those of you who don't know me, that's a big deal because I DO NOT run)
Take dance classes again
Go paragliding
Ride a segway
See floating lanterns like in the movie Tangled
Crowd surf
Be in a professional photoshoot
Go to a filming of So You Think You Can Dance
Watch a meteor shower
Jump off a waterfall
Go rock climbing
Play paintball
Watch sea turtles hatch
Pet a giraffe
Hold a monkey
Visit a glow worm cave
Get a hot stone massage Nisha George
Swim in Blue Hole (She didn't get to swim in the Blue Hole, but was able to visit it! Thank you Fran and Susie!)
Learn to play the piano
Visit a walk through aquarium
                This wrist band was worn by Kelly and Scott on their scuba diving trip.

                                                        She's wearing a Lizzie shirt!
Nisha says she is grateful for Lizzie's list that gets her to try things out of her comfort zone!